Life can be challenging here at Teatime Towers. Running my own coaching business is fantastic, don’t get me wrong, but aswell as seeing my lovely clients I have all the social media posts, website updates and blog writing to do too. Thank goodness for my coach who helps to keep me moving forward and supports my struggle to quieten the voices in my head (you know the ones, the ones that can make you feel as if you’re not good enough).
But sometimes life feels hard ….
whether it’s those annoying little everyday niggles like running out of ink in your printer halfway through an important job (wonder why that springs to mind … ?) or whether it’s about The Big Stuff like your career or your relationship.
“I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy … “
This was the first quote I posted on my Wednesday Teatime Facebook page and I used it again in another blog. I share it because I think it’s so important to understand that (despite the difficulties we may encounter) it really will be worth it once we begin to make the changes we want in our lives!
We have to embrace those things that are difficult.
When we resist, when we say to ourselves “it isn’t supposed to be like this”, we’re letting self-blame creep in. We can find ourselves thinking it’s only hard for us and that everyone else is just breezing along. Then we can find ourselves giving up or giving in. But what if you stopped doing that and acknowledged whatever it is you are feeling – stress, anxiety, fear or pain – and softened your heart towards it and yourself? It’s OK that it hurts, that it’s hard. This struggle is what you signed up for and when you reach your goals it will make it all worthwhile.
And it’s our choice.
I don’t mean it’s our choice to feel that pain or be in difficulty, I mean that it’s our choice to be on this journey towards change. Be compassionate with yourself and acknowledge the difficult things that you’re taking on.
And remember to honour the things that are NOT difficult in your life.
Think of the things (and the people) that support you, and don’t forget to look after yourself – keep up with your yoga/meditation practice/hula hooping, eat well and spend time doing things that help you to feel nurtured and loved.
Now when I’m struggling with my own difficulties it is SO good to remind myself why I made this choice – and that this is what I need to do so that I can reach out to as many women as I can and support them on their own courageous and amazing paths to change.
How about you – are you struggling with something right now? Let me know if the comments below.